7 Healthier Ways To Manage Anger

7 Healthier Ways To Manage Anger

Anger is usually considered an unsavoury and destructive type of emotion.  Could this view point actually fuel a misconception of its true nature? There is little doubt that when out of control, angry feelings can escalate into violence and destruction and so be frightening and become dangerous. Yet the premise I wish to explore here is that anger too, is simply an emotion like any other. When an emotion is misdirected or impeded it can build up into something explosive and be expressed in destructive ways. Thus the importance of healthy emotional management!

Many people are uncomfortable and frightened by anger, in a large part due to how we are socialized. Today there are many anger management courses available, which offer to teach people how to manage this emotion. When we attempt to stop an emotion for long enough, by suppressing or repressing it, it is like trying to stop a volcano from erupting – eventually, it will blow up.

 

I know that it is possible to learn how to manage anger by understanding the energy dynamics underlying this emotion more and so change perspective, leading to a more informed response, rather than a knee jeak reaction. I discussed this dynamic in my blog post ‘Understanding Your Emotional Makeup‘.

 

For many years, I was a very angry person and it would translate into feelings of resentment and on occassion led to depression and panic attacks. Until I knew I simply did not want to live my life feeling constantly angry. It was exhausting and uncomfortable. What I discovered when I explored and healed my own my own feelings and beliefs around anger, was the following:

 

1. Anger is primal

As we saw when looking at what an emotion is, anger is considered one of the base emotions. So when we feel threatened or afraid, anger can often be an instinctive reaction in an attempt to safeguard ourselves. This is often what happens when someone ‘snaps’ or ‘lashes out’. So it’s important to address our personal issues so that there are no pent up emotions.

 

2. Anger is a secondary emotion

A secondary emotion occurs in response to something else happening first. Even those that apparently ‘fly off the handle’, there is something causing the anger. Now, this doesn’t mean it’s okay to go ballistic, be aggressive or hurt someone. To get a handle on angry feelings, however, does require self-interrogation and perhaps some time to cool down, if necessary. The particularity about anger is that underneath this secondary feeling, is your personal power and ability to be discerning. When you are in touch with these aspects, it makes you calmer and self-assured, less liable to allow yourself to be manipulated by others.

 

3. Anger can motivate you

Generally, anger arises when one of our personal values, self-worth or safety is challenged, jeopardized or disrespected. Can you remember a time when someone said something untrue about you? Did you feel angry? That angry feeling is a response to an untruth – a misalignment in the energy – and your barometer to let you know that you are not okay with what is going on. Anger can often empower you to say ‘NO’ and motivate you to take a stand and not let yourself be a doormat. When you are able to manage your anger appropriately, you have the ability to assert your rights in a way that leaves no room for doubt as to your sincerity.

 

4. Anger is not a sin

Often spiritual people can feel it’s wrong to be angry. As if one excludes the other. Whatever it is you want to call it doesn’t matter. The point is to be whole and fulfilled, you are going to have to accept and allow all of yourself to be. And that means being alright with the whole spectrum of emotions. None are more important than another if you look at them as messages. Every emotion is telling you something about yourself so that you can get to know yourself better.

 

5. Anger is contagious

Is the anger yours? Have you asked the question? Until you ask the question you will not know. Often we are walking around with unconscious patterns playing out. Research has shown that it is possible for us to pick up on other people’s energy and vice versa. If you know you are highly sensitive, an empath, or psychic, then asking this will save you energy and unnecessary stress. Give it a go and see if you notice a difference.

 

6. Transmute the anger

When you are in the grips of primal anger, the quickest way I have found to flick the switch so that you can stay discerning and express yourself appropriately is by focusing on your breathing.

Stopping to take a few conscious breaths slows down the parasympathetic nervous system and so your brain stops sending fight or flight signals. I invite you to Destress, Detox, and Relax by getting your free download of my audio tool on conscious breathing.

 

7. Change your angry habits

Strong emotions have a huge impact on the body’s chemistry and emotional patterns can create stress in the body.

Over time, they can also become second nature – in other words, a habit or a go to response. For instance, I’m sure you’ve met someone who is always happy, or grumpy, or sad, or angry.

Emotional responses can become patterns of behaviour and create chemical reactions in the brain. This can make it harder to change our ‘bad’ habits, making it challenging to manage our angry outbursts.

I wanted to understand how strong emotions impact on the body’s metabolism and how to manage my emotions in healthier ways.

When I discover Schuessler’s cell salt therapy, it answered so many questions and has played a pivotal role, not only in my life but now also that of my clients.

I was so impressed by the breakthrough results I experienced with the cell salts, that today I facilitate cell salt therapy.

With a calmer and more resilient nervous system, it’s physiologically easier to manage emotions in a healthier way!

If you’d like to find out what mineral deficiencies may be affecting your emtional management skills, I highly recommend a Facial Diagnostics Consultation

 

In conclusion, as a species, humans have been given the ability to experience diverse emotions.  

Anger can be used as a powerful tool of discernment and also the potency to see things through. As with all emotions, it’s not only what we do when feeling them, it’s particularly how we do it and what’s the underlying motivation!

When we can take charge of managing and expressing our anger constructively and in healthier ways, we begin to response more with reason and compassion. It takes a conscious choice to shift from being angry to understanding what’s really going on, in an empowering and healthier way. 

I hope this information proves useful.

 


Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best-Selling Author and Speaker who assists her clients to alleviate anxiety, relieve physio-emotional pain and reduce stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul energetics and increase their inner harmony and outer balance.

To explore your options for a shift in awareness and to experience breakthrough, book in with Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment

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5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

Have you ever felt lonely?

Odds are that you have, at some point or other in your life. For some, this is a temporary and transient emotion that comes and goes. For others, feeling lonely can be a more permanent and unwanted visitor, that has far outstayed its welcome.

For instance, recent reports from Help Lines for those in need, show an increased number of calls, in particular during or around public holidays, from both people in relationships as well as those living alone.

Loneliness doesn’t discriminate!

Emotions are powerful players in our lives and depending on what and how they make us feel, are considered either friends or foes. Within our societies, cultures and gender roles, we become conditioned early on about what type of emotional behaviour is or isn’t acceptable. Yet, simultaneously, emotions are extremely personal and influenced by an individual’s inner relationship and sensibilities and personality types, such as introverts and extroverts.

Regardless of your personality type, however, it’s important and handy to know what to do and how to respond when loneliness begins to spread its fingers across our hearts and minds, to taint our lives in sad, dull and uncomfortable colours.

Loneliness has the power to disempower us so deeply in the most profound corners of our lives.

I know this because I used to feel constantly lonely, isolated and totally useless. So, I want to share five keys that helped me to beat loneliness, that can work for you too!

Here are 5 Ways to Beat Loneliness:

 

1. Admit How You are Feeling.

This may seem counterproductive at first because it can stir up fear. The fear of being consumed by feeling lonely. The fact of the matter, however, is that until you acknowledge what you feel, you are a slave to it. Many people feel ashamed or guilty to admit that they feel lonely, because of what it may imply. There is a fear that by admitting to something, it makes it true. This is a falsehood!

By admitting what it is you are feeling, you take back your power and can be objective about what’s really going on.

What you won’t own, enslaves you!

 

2. Give Your Loneliness A Form.

Strong emotions can often make us feel irrational. So, a great way to begin to ‘contain the situation’ in a safe environment and way, is by giving loneliness a form. For example, when you feel lonely, give it a scale of intensity from 1 -10. This is helpful, as it creates a space of detachment from the feeling, while still admitting it exists.

Each time you give a form to your loneliness helps you to see the intensity of your loneliness in a constructive way.

Remember that your emotions are real in your mind/brain and by giving them a form, as in a number, helps you to take a step back and be able to be detached in a healthy way.

 

3. Dig Deep.

The last thing you probably want to do when it comes to loneliness, is to dig deeper right? That’s fear – False Evidence Appearing Real – talking! And boy, it can feel scary feeling lonely. So, to beat this fear, dig deep and explore what is underneath the feeling of loneliness.

Make a list of all the feelings and thoughts that come to mind, no matter what they are. And practice makes progress, so do this often.

You can only change what you are willing to confront. Healing comes through feeling.

Which brings me to the next key point.

 

4. Don’t Shoot the Messenger.

Loneliness, like all emotions, brings a message with it. Humans, after all, are highly complex individuals. We are also creatures of habit and so it’s important to find out what is underneath our emotions. There is always a belief system that is attached to an emotional reaction. It’s part of our social, cultural and gender upbringing.

Ask yourself, “what is making me feel lonely?” and explore what comes up. This may sound challenging and requires a good dose of being honest with yourself in a gentle yet rigorous way.

The messenger is you, telling you more about yourself. Stop and listen and you will find that with more clarity the loneliness very often fades into the background and the true issue can be resolved, bringing peace of mind and calm.

 

5. Change Your Emotional Map.

Did you know that for the brain, all behaviours and emotions are mini programmes running the show? Otherwise called habits. The above keys are an outline on how to change your internal and emotional map. When you do this, your external map will begin to match up.

Allow yourself to stop and ask for directions on the way. You don’t have to beat loneliness on your own. I know from personal experience, that finding the help you need is key to beating loneliness.

Add pit stops of support to your emotional map as you progress and look for new destinations.

I hope you enjoy these 5 keys to beating loneliness. If you would like more tips on how to beat loneliness effectively, my book FEARLESSLY ALONE takes an in depth look at what makes us feel lonely and really afraid and how to break free and find your happy no matter what!

Many Blissings,

Trilby.


Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best Selling Author and Speaker. She offers her clients practical effective life skills and facilitates an energetic inner shift that empowers them to heal by alleviating anxiety, relieving psycho-emotional pain and reducing stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul connection.

 Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment 

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