FREE! Wow, has this been brought into my awareness over the last few days!! I thought I would do like most others and follow the marketing tips by offering some free coaching sessions. Admittedly, with the intention of drawing more people in. I could just see them just discovering what a wonderful experience this was and then of course, signing up for more coaching. I really thought people would just jump at the chance to experience this. Right? Uh, not quite!!
Firstly, I had no fish biting at all. Mmhhhhhhh. Not good enough bait? So I started asking questions. What was right about this that I was not getting? What showed up?
1. I felt deflated that no one had even responded. Where is the joy in that?
2. I fell into self-doubt, which is the ultimate attitude of lack. Where is the joy in that?
3. I tried to cognitively understand the cause as to why people would not jump at this free offer. Where is the joy in that?
4. I did actually facilitate two free sessions and the feedback was – honestly – nothing had changed. Of course, I took full responsability for this outcome – both mine and theirs. Generous or stupid? Where is the joy in that?
OK, so is it only me that’s sees a pattern here? Where is the JOY!!
This has been such a valuable lesson for me. Basically, how much do I value what I do? Am I valueing myself and standing in my joy when I give my services away for FREE or no thing?
Isn’t the Universe or LOA, wonderful? The information is always there and it will continue to show up in a myriad of ways – until we finally get it. For me, it was someone asking me this question: what is the value of giving away your sessions for free? GLOP!!This brought me up short, to a stockstill stand. There was no value and there was no JOY.
What I got out of it:
1. I am valuable and so are the gifts that I offer.
2. Anything FREE is not valuable enough to shift anyone’s belief. It’s simply too easy and therefor cannot work, thus has no value.
3. In the grand scheme of things, there is always an exchange of some kind. This is Law. It just probably never shows up like we expect it to.
4. My work and time is valuable. This involves my greatest commodity – my attention. So, to honour the exchange of energies, my time = money.
Now, knowing all this is of true value – and it did not come for FREE, but with blood, sweat and tears.
I Am Valued and Valuable. I Am supported and acknowledged in all I do, by My-Self, and Others.
IN-VISIBLE?! Well this is my first post for a while and my first one for this New Year of 2012. For the last few months, the subject of feeling invisible has been popping up into my awareness in many and diverse ways. Knowing that what shows up in my external is a reflection of my internal realm, I finally got through the usual knee-jerk re-actions into a new place of actual creation and being the question around this and receiving the missing information.
This feeling of being invisible has always felt really heavy for me. It left me in a state of confusion, as if I was wading through thick molasses that slowed me down and any progress hard work and over time exhausting and demotivating. I seemed to be striving for something elusive and always just out of reach, leading to frustration and unfulfillment. What would it take for me to be seen, supported and acknowledged – to be visible? And then, a few day’s ago, the penny dropped and I saw the word and it looked like this ………. IN-VISIBLE !!
Now I have seen this defined as a noun that means “an invisible thing or being”. or “the invisible, the unseen or spiritual world”. I realised that my definition of “invisible” was collapsed with that of meaning “non-existing”. A-ha!! Not quite the same thing is it?
What struck me as ironic is that the word used for that which is not visible actually contains within its root verb the word ……….. VISIBLE! We have been duped into not seeing all that is already in-the-visible! Reminded of the idiom, “there are none so blind as those that cannot see”, I now see through the lie within the word “IN-VISIBLE”.
Most of us, I imagine, have experienced a moment of feeling that we are invisible. However, what comes to me from the definition is not that there is non existance, but rather in fact that there is a need for a different perspective or in-sight.
I took heart from this, now knowing fully that being in-visible does not mean I am not seen or that I do not exist. It is a reminder that we all look at the world through our own unique filter’s, most of the time. Things, people and situations are rarely as we expect them to be and just as much is outside of our usual range of perception and awareneness, does not mean that it is not there. There are moments however, when the veil drops and all becomes visible and clear. In NLP, they talk about changing your glasses for another pair, so that another point of observation is possible. Like with a pair of 3-D glasses, once you put them on, the movie has a whole new depth and experience to it.
I have a feeling that 2012 is a year of re-veal-ation and that much that has been filtered out until now, will be allowed to filter through and in. If I choose this. For today however, I stand in my Knowing that within the Divine’s Eye, all is IN-VISIBLE!!
Wishing you all a glorious, fantastic, de-light-filled and phenomenal year in 2012!! May your Light shine bright and visible.
Until recently, I saw abuse as something that others inflict on others. Either through physical acts or verbal and psychological abuse. Yet what about our own thoughts and emotions that we use towards and against ourself? What if when I consider myself unworthy, without value, invisible, too this or not enough that – what if this is in fact abuse of the Self? And what when we feel justified in doing this to ourself, simply because it is self-inflicted and we can pretend that we are not a victim?
So what does abuse have to do with value of worth? As has been explained by many of the visionaries today, when we declare “I Am ………..”, then all that is not THAT will surface to be honoured and released. Took me a while to get this, in particular with regards to abundance. Here I was declaring I Am Abundant and Abundance and guess what was showing up …………. everything that was not abundant and abundance. Did I like this, did this make me feel powerful and a creator? Nope, indeed. I ranted and raved, drove my friends insane and scared the abundance I was asking for away. Finally, I concluded that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and especially not for me.
Now, several weeks later, humbled and so grateful, I know that not only does the Law of Attraction work, I also have greater awareness as to where I have perpetuated my self-abuse. – firstly, Law of Attraction works, – second, it works irrespective of whether I choose consciously, or alternatively by default choice, – thirdly, by concluding that Law of Attraction did not work for me, I was viewing myself as lacking and without value and worth.
I created and attracted situations and incidents that were lovingly and unconditionally, highlighting for me where and how I was devalueing myself and shooting myself in the foot, as far as my self-worth was concerned. I was faced with a seemingly total lack of abundance. The Universe had been inviting me to really be conscious of my default programme of value and worth playing in the background, i.e. my vibration.
It was brought home to me that nothing occurs in isolation. There is a connectedness to everything and also within us. All that shows up in our daily life truly is a reflection of what is within us. It is essential to step out of the Ego Mind (Solar Plexus) and into our Knowing (Heart Chakra) if we are to fully understand these reflections.
“May your relationship with yourself be so loving, accepting and full of self-compassion, self-esteem and self-caring that you attract people who treat you the same way!” ~Unknown
People will always treat you as you treat yourself. The key is understanding what is showing up – even though it may not be something you can like. As the beautiful Dee Wallace often says, “Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself – and then love yourself even more………”
The value of worth is in BEING YOU! Now that is worthy of value!