When it comes to being an expert in NOT having money, that used to be me! I remember so much of it really clearly. Today, I can also truly say that I wouldn’t change a thing and I learned so much about myself and money that now enriches my life. It’s certainly wasn’t always this way and like so many people, I felt like a fly caught in the financial web of beliefs around money – helpless, not enough, disempowered and struggling to survive.
I know what it’s like to be broke and broken.
I know what it’s like to lay sleepless worrying about how to pay for food and rent.
I know what it’s like to have a well paid job and yet feel empty inside.
I know what it’s like to be so deep in debt that all I work to earn goes to repayments.
I know what it’s like to want more money and yet feel it’s inaccessible in sufficient quantities.
I know what it’s like to pay for numerous classes on ‘how to manifest more money’ and still come up empty handed despite all the expert advice.
I know how it feels to be working my butt off and yet be stuck up against a wall financially and not see any way out.
I know what it’s like to feel totally trapped and at the mercy of my finances.
I know how it feels to be ashamed not to have the money to socialize at all and the pain of seeing people drop out of my life like flies, to be left alone and penniless.
I know how it feels to think that perhaps the only solution is suicide, because dead people don’t have to pay bills or need money.
Up until 5 years ago, this used to be my financial lifestyle and beliefs. It was a horrible and impoverished way to live. And yet in some strange and magical way, it proved to be my road to freedom. When I finally stopped and decided to have a heart to heart conversation with money, I was blown away.
I sat down to have a necessary conversation with Money and to listen to its side of the story. I did this in a contemplative state and invited money in for a talk and was open to receive its answers intuitively. This allowed money to have a shape and form of it’s choosing, beyond my past perception of it. And this talk set us both free!
At first, I felt a little bit crazy talking to money like this, because it was such unfamiliar behaviour and mindset. However, I also felt a deep sense of relief and ease – a stark contrast to the bottomless struggle I had been experiencing around money and budget up until then. So I let go and consciously trusted the process. Here are a few things that Money shared with me:
1. Money is enslaved
One of the first things that money shared with me, was that it had become enslaved to the human mindset and was being used incorrectly. It is used as a form of power over others rather than the tool of exchange and value that it wants to be.
The dominant beliefs that are held about money and what it can or cannot be used for, holds it prisoner. Although it can afford and offer us so much more, most of us are not able to receive this and this is reinforced by the judgement of those that do.
2. Money is a tool of empowerment
Money wants to be seen as a tool of empowerment. As a consumer, did you know that your power lies in where you spend your money? Consumer marketing is rigged in such a way that will keep you buying stuff you don’t need. This is how corporations get away with unethical behaviour and how consumers keep on buying products that are harmful in the long run. Buy consciously and use your buying power wisely. This is one way of being a steward of money and the relationship becomes one of mutual empowerment and servitude.
3. Money likes a budget
One way that money feels more visible is through the use of a budget. A budget gives form and shape to money. No matter how much money is available, part of conscious buying is keeping an eye on where money is going and what it is used for. So much money is wasted and is spent on unnecessary things. Remember point 2 about buying wisely – well having a budget supports this.
Money wants to encourage the use of a budget as a tool for materializing abundance rather than it’s more current perception of curbing spending. Using a budget can help to really see where and how money is spent and to change these patterns and create expansion.
4. Money is a neutral wealth contributor
There is an intrinsic value to money that is mostly overlooked and misunderstood. Money, when unshackled from the prejudice placed on it through misguided beliefs, can contribute to wealth in ways that benefits all parties. It is waiting to be of service. Many successful business entrepreneurs understand this principle intuitively and know how to get the best out of their buck.
The points above are just a few of the messages that I got from conversing with Money. It can sound crazy and then again, what is true often seems crazier than fiction. I invite you to sit down and initiate a necessary conversation with your money and have a budget in place. See what shows up for you.
When used as an extension of one’s self, money becomes a tool of personal empowerment and a way to nurture compassion and support for everyone, rather than a means to manipulate from greed, lack and separation.
For most of us, money is extremely emotional and impacts our lives in huges ways. Once we are able to find a place of relaxed calmness and really listen – above and beyond the emotions which are generally associated to indoctrinated judgements – it’s possible to experience money and abundance in a totally fresh way.
Here’s to having amazing, expansive and necessary conversations with money, on your own terms.
In my book, ‘Fearlessly Alone – Stop the Lonely Crisis and Find Your Happy’ I share actions point on how to create a conversation with your money. Grab an excerpt FREE here – > Money Talk PDF download.
Many Blissings.
Trilby x
Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.
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so poignant, empowering, stimulating and freeing. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for your heartfelt comment Brenton. x
I had a similar conversation with money a few months ago. I was shocked to learn that I had subconscious beliefs that fit in with your number 4. When I came into wealth as a younger woman I felt guilty with that wealth. As a child my family was on welfare and we never had enough to keep the electric on, buy clothing or live without fear. When I came into wealth in my late 30s, I (subconsciously) believed that I was overly responsible for the well-being of others and I alone had to pay for people’s livelihoods, meals, and other ways to “save the world”. So money became negative and a burden and who wants that! With this belief I kept money away from me.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience Lori. It’s important to be aware that our beliefs around money are actually more about us that money itself. Money has it’s own agenda.
What a fabulous and empowering article Trilby! I love the insights and fresh perspective about money as a tool of personal empowerment. This quote sums up for me a new way of looking at money that I pan to embrace, “When used as an extension of one’s self, money becomes a tool of personal empowerment and a way to nurture compassion and support for everyone, rather than a means to manipulate from greed, lack and separation.” Thank you!
Thank you Kelley and I love that you feel empowered. Indeed money wants to be useful in so many wonderful ways that serve all favourably. My pleasure.
I recently gave a talk to a group of young women entrepreneurs in which I threw shade atI the “desperately broke money coach” and the “extremely depressed happiness coach.” I love that you use your past to frame your expertise but make it clear that it is in the past. I look forward to hearing more from you.
Sounds like a great talk Andrea. Thank you.
I have great respect and love for the energy of Money, Trilby. I make sure my wallet is regularly cleared of items that don’t belong there and my notes are kept with love. Even when I’m short of cash, I get the sense of abundance and the deficit gets covered by unexpected inflows.
Wonderful Vatsala.
I enjoyed this – brought some new ideas forward in my relationship with money! I give money a personality – I envision money as Hotei (Japanese god of wealth and health) who has a big smile and a loving, giving nature. I also envision Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of wealth, fortune and prosperity.
Wonderful. I love that vision Maribeth. Enjoy.
Wow. This is such a cool blog post. I never thought about some of these things and this encourages me to create a new relationship with money! Thank you!
That’s wonderful Jessica and so glad you feel encouraged! 🙂
Beautiful post Trilby. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience on how to heal our feelings of scarcity.
Thank you Debra. Yes, healing our beliefs around scarcity is so important to embrace our wholeness and abundance.
Money is just energy. We give it meaning, not the other way around. Great post.
Thank for your comment Barb. Yes it is energy and so can be directed, albeit up until now, not so abundantly.
Hi Trilby, Great post! I enjoyed the creative process you used to “talk to money
and the amazing lessons it shared with you. I particularly related to the
budget discussion. I’ve never really liked budgets. Based on what you shared
I’m now doing a reframe around having a budget and viewing it as an
opportunity to learn and be curious about how and where my money is
spent. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom around money.
Thank you Pamela and so glad that it helped you to reframe some of your interactions with money. Enjoy.