7 Healthier Ways To Manage Anger

7 Healthier Ways To Manage Anger

Anger is usually considered an unsavoury and destructive type of emotion.  Could this view point actually fuel a misconception of its true nature? There is little doubt that when out of control, angry feelings can escalate into violence and destruction and so be frightening and become dangerous. Yet the premise I wish to explore here is that anger too, is simply an emotion like any other. When an emotion is misdirected or impeded it can build up into something explosive and be expressed in destructive ways. Thus the importance of healthy emotional management!

Many people are uncomfortable and frightened by anger, in a large part due to how we are socialized. Today there are many anger management courses available, which offer to teach people how to manage this emotion. When we attempt to stop an emotion for long enough, by suppressing or repressing it, it is like trying to stop a volcano from erupting – eventually, it will blow up.

 

I know that it is possible to learn how to manage anger by understanding the energy dynamics underlying this emotion more and so change perspective, leading to a more informed response, rather than a knee jeak reaction. I discussed this dynamic in my blog post ‘Understanding Your Emotional Makeup‘.

 

For many years, I was a very angry person and it would translate into feelings of resentment and on occassion led to depression and panic attacks. Until I knew I simply did not want to live my life feeling constantly angry. It was exhausting and uncomfortable. What I discovered when I explored and healed my own my own feelings and beliefs around anger, was the following:

 

1. Anger is primal

As we saw when looking at what an emotion is, anger is considered one of the base emotions. So when we feel threatened or afraid, anger can often be an instinctive reaction in an attempt to safeguard ourselves. This is often what happens when someone ‘snaps’ or ‘lashes out’. So it’s important to address our personal issues so that there are no pent up emotions.

 

2. Anger is a secondary emotion

A secondary emotion occurs in response to something else happening first. Even those that apparently ‘fly off the handle’, there is something causing the anger. Now, this doesn’t mean it’s okay to go ballistic, be aggressive or hurt someone. To get a handle on angry feelings, however, does require self-interrogation and perhaps some time to cool down, if necessary. The particularity about anger is that underneath this secondary feeling, is your personal power and ability to be discerning. When you are in touch with these aspects, it makes you calmer and self-assured, less liable to allow yourself to be manipulated by others.

 

3. Anger can motivate you

Generally, anger arises when one of our personal values, self-worth or safety is challenged, jeopardized or disrespected. Can you remember a time when someone said something untrue about you? Did you feel angry? That angry feeling is a response to an untruth – a misalignment in the energy – and your barometer to let you know that you are not okay with what is going on. Anger can often empower you to say ‘NO’ and motivate you to take a stand and not let yourself be a doormat. When you are able to manage your anger appropriately, you have the ability to assert your rights in a way that leaves no room for doubt as to your sincerity.

 

4. Anger is not a sin

Often spiritual people can feel it’s wrong to be angry. As if one excludes the other. Whatever it is you want to call it doesn’t matter. The point is to be whole and fulfilled, you are going to have to accept and allow all of yourself to be. And that means being alright with the whole spectrum of emotions. None are more important than another if you look at them as messages. Every emotion is telling you something about yourself so that you can get to know yourself better.

 

5. Anger is contagious

Is the anger yours? Have you asked the question? Until you ask the question you will not know. Often we are walking around with unconscious patterns playing out. Research has shown that it is possible for us to pick up on other people’s energy and vice versa. If you know you are highly sensitive, an empath, or psychic, then asking this will save you energy and unnecessary stress. Give it a go and see if you notice a difference.

 

6. Transmute the anger

When you are in the grips of primal anger, the quickest way I have found to flick the switch so that you can stay discerning and express yourself appropriately is by focusing on your breathing.

Stopping to take a few conscious breaths slows down the parasympathetic nervous system and so your brain stops sending fight or flight signals. I invite you to Destress, Detox, and Relax by getting your free download of my audio tool on conscious breathing.

 

7. Change your angry habits

Strong emotions have a huge impact on the body’s chemistry and emotional patterns can create stress in the body.

Over time, they can also become second nature – in other words, a habit or a go to response. For instance, I’m sure you’ve met someone who is always happy, or grumpy, or sad, or angry.

Emotional responses can become patterns of behaviour and create chemical reactions in the brain. This can make it harder to change our ‘bad’ habits, making it challenging to manage our angry outbursts.

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With a calmer and more resilient nervous system, it’s physiologically easier to manage emotions in a healthier way!

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In conclusion, as a species, humans have been given the ability to experience diverse emotions.  

Anger can be used as a powerful tool of discernment and also the potency to see things through. As with all emotions, it’s not only what we do when feeling them, it’s particularly how we do it and what’s the underlying motivation!

When we can take charge of managing and expressing our anger constructively and in healthier ways, we begin to response more with reason and compassion. It takes a conscious choice to shift from being angry to understanding what’s really going on, in an empowering and healthier way. 

I hope this information proves useful.

 


Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best-Selling Author and Speaker who assists her clients to alleviate anxiety, relieve physio-emotional pain and reduce stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul energetics and increase their inner harmony and outer balance.

To explore your options for a shift in awareness and to experience breakthrough, book in with Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment

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Understanding Your Emotional Makeup

Understanding Your Emotional Makeup


If knowledge is power, then having a sound understanding of your emotional makeup can help to manage emotions more successfully and effectively. To make this happen, requires having the right strategies that provide specific results. 


As Tom Waits said, “How you do anything, is how you do everything.” And yes, this applies to our emotions too. Often, a part of the solution is understanding what it is you are working with – at lease short term. It may seem obvious but in my book, asking ‘what is an emotion?’ is a great place to start.

Although there are several theories regarding emotions, the consensus amongst psychologists is that there are six basic human emotions.

These are:

  • Fear
  • Anger
  • Surprise
  • Happiness
  • Sadness
  • Disgust


Further research by psychologist Paul Eckman showed that these emotions are innate, universal, and usually expressed through facial expressions. As children grow up these emotions will become influenced through socialization and education. The kind of emotional associations made during these informative years will have a large impact on the way anger and forgiveness are processed and managed later on in life.

On the surface, emotions may seem a given and therefore straightforward. Yet a study conducted in 2007 by Hockenbury showed that there is more to each emotion than initially thought. An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components:

  1. A subjective experience
  2. A physiological response
  3. A behavioural or expressive response.


This psychological observation is important when wanting to change an emotion and create a new emotional response and association. Each of these components needs to be addressed effectively, separately. Missing any of these steps leads to emotional incongruency and could explain why people often feel at the mercy of their emotions and struggle to detach.

Humans are extremely complex in their emotional makeup because there are layers and triggers of all kinds involved. From very young, we are indoctrinated about what each emotion means, and we are told when and how it is or isn’t appropriate to feel that way. The lines are drawn and we are expected to operate within them.

Although there are these common agreements, the subjective component is always at play. Each emotion is experienced individually in a myriad of ways and intensities. Think of a few different times when you felt angry. Was your feeling of anger the same each time? What made you angry each time? Was the way you dealt with your anger the same each time? I am guessing that the answer is probably no.

Depending on how you were raised and how other people like parents, teachers, friends, siblings, partners, spouses etc. responded and encouraged or discouraged you, you may or may not feel more at ease with some of your emotions than others. If emotions are mismanaged, this can lead to suppressed or repressed feelings and erratic behaviour. It is impossible to not feel your emotions. How you behave when feeling these emotions and the response this evoked from others will leave a lasting impression.

An important element here is that most behaviour is learned and influenced by the current social and cultural norms. It is founded mostly in judgmental concepts of polarity like good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. This is the cognitive conditioning that most people use to make their choices. But what about what you are feeling about your emotions? What do you feel about anger and forgiveness for instance?

Immediately one can be struck by the desirability of one more than the other, is this not so? It’s okay to feel forgiveness and not okay to feel anger. This puts us in a position of feeling that we have to choose the more favourable option, in spite of our feelings, which are also valid. One thing is certain though and shown scientifically, everything is energy and energy cannot be destroyed. So how is it possible to turn one emotion, like anger, into another emotion, like forgiveness. The answer is quite simply, you cannot! You can, however, transmute the energy of an emotion, which allows the feeling to dissipate in a healthy and conscious way.

Everything in the Universe emits a specific energy frequency. Anger and forgiveness each exist on two specific and different frequencies and on two different spectrums. To move efficiently and effectively between these different levels requires identifying or establishing a common denominator. Do you know what that is?

You!

You are always the common aspect in your life with the ability to align as you choose and process your thoughts and emotions. This requires being present in each emotion and developing your awareness of what the meaning is for you. Your emotions are your personal GPS system. Don’t let them lead you astray and allow them to control you!



Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best-Selling Author and Speaker who assists her clients to alleviate anxiety, relieve physio-emotional pain and reduce stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul energetics and increase inner harmony and outer balance.

To explore your options for a shift in awareness and to experience breakthrough, book in with Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment

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Can Meditation Help Cure Mental Health?

Can Meditation Help Cure Mental Health?

You may call me a dreamer… am I the only one?

I generally don’t feel comfortable making guarantees when it comes to cures. I am 100% confident, however, that anything is possible when you are open to alternatives and focused on solutions. And in this case, I have a personal track record of success and a sound knowledge base to draw upon.

Meditation is one of the most accessible and straightforward tools that I know of that does both; offering a well-being alternative and providing a solution, while still being complementary to the majority of treatments and modalities. It does take practise and an open mind to perfect however… and that’s when the fun and improvement can really begin!

According to the medical definition of meditation on thefreedictionary.com“Meditation is a practice of concentrated focus upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, movement, or attention itself in order to increase awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enhance personal and spiritual growth.”

So, that’s already quite a lot of benefits, don’t you think?

Even today, many of Western culture perceive meditation as doing nothing, wasting time that they believe they don’t have, something that is too woo-woo for them to do, or it’s some kind of a cult. And while it may have its roots in more spiritual doctrines and more modernly within the concept of mindfulness, meditation is very much a practical non-secular tool, that can and does support a sense of an easier and more fulfilled life in the real and busy world of today. It’s definitely, in my opinion, worth finding the time for.

Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.”  – Saint Francis de Sales

I feel meditation is a type of ‘Feng-Shui’ for the body, mind, and soul.

It helps to create a peaceful, calm and beneficial balance that creates a harmonious environment on the inside and outside. Many people only think of their health from a physical aspect. However, research now shows the link between body and mind. Consequently, it’s important to find a healthy ‘all-in-one’ body-mind-soul balance. Like meditation for instance!

The wonder of meditation, in my experience, is that it hones your focus inwards, and shuts out the distractions and business of outside world, often affording the body to still and experience a deep state of relaxation and awareness.

It’s an opportunity to experience and understand what the ‘no-thing’ is, and gives the brain a “timeout” actually allowing it to organise and integrate all of those daily thoughts.

It can also result in major improvements in people’s health, moods, vitality, and ability to heal. Not bad for ‘no-thing’ happening right? Quite the contrary, in fact!

Medical research recognises stress as a major contributor, in some way or another, to most major modern diseases and mental health issues. Consequently, when you learn to contain, reduce and even eliminate the negative impact of stress in your life, this enables you to live healthier and calmer, physically and mentally.

In addition to the benefits already mentioned, regular meditation as a stand-alone practise offers extensive ways to improve and cultivate healing of the body, mind and soul in the following ways:

  • improved memory and concentration.

  • better and more positive moods.

  • optimal immune system function.

  • reduced blood pressure.

  • better sleep and quality of sleep.

  • increased creativity.

  • soothes mental and emotional processes.

  • affords the time for deeper subliminal integration of physical and mental processes.

  • ability to visualise.

  • less stress and more physical and emotional calmness.

  • physical improvement of symptoms of fibromyalgia and psoriasis, HIV, etc.

  • less reactive both mentally and emotionally.

  • deepens your connection to yourself and intuition.

  • relaxes, rejuvenates, and tones body and mind.

  • enables easier access to deeper personal wisdom.

  • activates an expansion of consciousnessand much more.

The paradox about meditation is that the experience itself is a state that lies beyond the linear mind. So, when it comes to healing or improving mental health, it’s important to not enter into meditation pushing towards getting over the issue at hand. Instead, enter a space of mindfulness and observing what is already there, without trying to change it… and then allow other possibilities to manifest.

Using the technique of visualisation, in this case, can be beneficial, as you are meditating with the awareness, images, and sensations of being healthy. This practice floods the subconscious with positive vibes of good health and well-being. The brain also has the time to only focus on one thing at a time and assesses everything as if it is happens. The ability to experience strong positive health and well-being, objectively, in a meditative state, is extremely powerful and the body and mind responds positively and organically.

A word of caution, however, when it comes to curing disease and the notion of healing. As humans, we have a physical body and usually focus on this more than the more invisible aspects of the psyche, emotions, and the soul. The ego-mind will have an image of what the resulting ‘cure’ looks like. However, on a soul-level, the solution that is ‘the cure’, can be quite a different kettle of fish, and also beyond any limits set by physical parameters. And sometimes, in the grand scheme of things, a cure does come in the form of death, when the body and soul are released from the dis-ease and physical, mental, and emotional pain.

Meditation is very effective in helping the ill to transition gracefully with the mental strength to accept their fate, making the transition more peaceful for all parties concerned, proving to be a calming force also when dealing with grief.

Meditation, in my experience, is about cultivating what I call the art of conscious detachment. It does so in a way that allows you to cure yourself of the burden of judgement and polarity thinking – regardless if something is right/wrong, good/bad, healthy/unhealthy etc. – living the experience fully and richly, whatever it may be. It’s what can make all the difference when it comes to living a great life, simply because it’s the one we have been given and we have the wisdom to know the difference.

You may call me a dreamer, and I’m not the only one! Meditation has helped me improve and fortify my mental health around issues of imperfection, impatience, and not feeling enough, time and time again, helping me become stronger, calmer, healthier and happier.

It has shown me that in the ‘no-thing’ there is ‘wholeness.’ That there is always a solution and cure – more often than not, it comes down to gaining access. In more ways than even acknowledged today by mainstream media, meditation can offer access to a world of infinite possibilities and well-being.

Don’t be led astray by misleading information and give it a go for yourself. As long-term meditation teaches, practise is perfection. And from where I stand, as far as cures go, that’s priceless and a valuable return on investment in your health and well-being. If it wasn’t for a long practice of meditation in my life, I would probably not have overcome my own mental health issues and be here to write about this amazing and natural ability.

Could meditation be a cure to mental health? Even if you don’t like the word – call it whatever you want, but give it a go for a while. Then you decide!

Here’s to your health and healing.

p.s. If you’re looking for a meditation audio to support your mental health, why not try this one I did -> Harmonize Your Chakras


Trilby Johnson, is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best-Selling Author and Motivational Speaker who empowers her clients to alleviate anxiety, relieve physio-emotional pain and reduce stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul energetics.

To explore your options, book in with Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment

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